How to Find your Niche

Do you ever have the feeling that you’re just not good at anything?

That is me, I am still searching for that one special skill I have. There are many things I enjoy doing, whether I am good at or not. I just hate that I don’t have that one talent I am known for and make part of my life. When I became a stay at home mom, I wanted something fun that I could do so I wouldn’t go stir crazy, and added bonus make some extra money! Before I became a SAHM, I was a preschool teacher and loved my job, however, other than lesson planning, art projects, and singing songs all day, I couldn’t figure out what I was good at.

I am a mom.

I am also so much more than just a mom.

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As I was sitting at home with my little one, I would research all these different jobs I could do at home and make money. The ideal jobs I thought were the most interesting were not realistic for me, because I didn’t have a particular skill needed to do the jobs, such as crafting, what can I make? As I laughed about my non skill of crafting, I thought about my options. And since I can’t actually go to work because daycare is expensive and I have no one that can watch the kids, I don’t have a lot of options.

After much research about different work from home jobs, I realized my number one job is staying home with the kids and be able to homeschool. Therefore, any job I start doing has to be flexible enough with my every day schedule, and can not get to the point where it makes my life busier. I applaud the working moms, and moms who run their own business and be able to take care of their house and family.

I am not one of those people that can take on a lot, I have a hard enough time keeping up with laundry and dishes. So I decided to write down all my “skills” and degrees/licenses I have and started several categories for possible jobs.

  • Skills/licenses
  • Work from home jobs
  • Night work
  • Things I enjoy
  • Things I want to try

After writing down all the job ideas I had for each category, I still could not choose one. I read somewhere that if you cleared your mind and have a blank piece of paper in front of you and a pen, you can do this exercise.

First close your eyes. Clear your mind (easier said than done, but try). Now, with that pen and piece of paper in front of you write down all things that interest you or passionate about. Don’t think, just write, no stopping. Write down everything that comes to you. Once you put the pen down, you will be surprised with what you came up with and something may pop out to you that sparks your inner creativity!

You can do this exercise everyday, and may come up with new ideas or may write down the same ideas. Everyone is passionate about something, but sometimes you may need a little extra help to find out what that is and how you can make it part of your life.

Asking family and friends about what they think you are good at or passionate about may help too. Sometimes, others may see something in you that you don’t. It never hurts to ask for help, and ask yourself this question:

Can you work while taking care of your little one(s)?

If the whole reason you wanted a job you can do from home is to stay home with the kids, make sure to keep that at the front of your mind when searching through all these ideas.

Remember, never giving up is a skill! Keep trying to find your passion! Do what you love, even if you don’t make any money at first and share your talent!

Being a mom is the greatest talent we all have in common.

Thanks for reading and please feel free to share your ideas of how you found your passion!


The PPD

Before I began this journey into the blogging world, I was set on writing about motherhood (the happy part), but while creating my blog, I was thinking about all the hard times and how no one ever wants to share that. People only want to share what they want you to see, the “perfect life”. As, moms, we all try our best to be the best, but never stop to think, maybe that mom is really struggling and needs someone to talk to.

That is why I decided I would talk about this particular subject for my first blog post.


To begin, I will tell you a little about my story…

When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I was so excited, I could not wait to be a mom! It wasn’t even a month after she was born that I had gone through some terrible dark times, from betrayal to losing friends and trust. On top of everything, I was feeling some of the symptoms of PPD (postpartum depression), which I never told my doctor because I kept on telling myself it was all the stress I was going through, being a new mom and all. I thought I could get through it on my own.

This is me smiling.

This is also me having one of my hardest days only 2 months postpartum.

Looks can be deceiving. I am one of those types that don’t like to show emotion in public and especially talk to someone about how lonely I am feeling.

Motherhood is meant to be the happiest time of your life! Postpartum depression is real and you are not alone. Don’t be afraid, speak up and fight through it.

Consult with your doctor right away if you are feeling any of these symptoms:

  • Mood swings
  • Lack energy
  • Insomnia, excessive crying, anger
  • Lost of appetite, weight loss/weight gain
  • Feeling frustrated, guilt, inadequacy
  • Worry, scary thoughts
  • Feeling like you are getting worse not better

Ways to fight through this disease:

Join social media groups

Get into social media and use it as a way to connect and talk to other moms who may be going through the same thing as you. Its a great way to meet new friends and get together for playdates. Adult conversations are one thing we miss out on a lot.

Talk to a therapist

This may not be the at the top of your list, but I wish I would have done this. Not just for my health but I really needed to vent and not feel bad about it. They are licensed and are there to help you.

Hang out with family

This is my favorite because I love going to my moms house and being with family. It distracts me and we all have a few good laughs and everyone wants to play with the kids which gives me a nice break.

Make time for yourself

I believe this is the number one thing you can do for yourself, it’s also the hardest. Even if it is during nap time or your hubby can spend an hour with baby while you take a nice relaxing bath. Whatever it is you want to do, try to make the time so you can take care of yourself. Tell your husband, or mother or friend that its for your health and safety and all you need a little time. That is what you have to do!

*Note: Motherhood can be hard, heck life can be hard, but you don’t have to feel this way! Don’t be afraid to talk to you doctor because being there for your kids is far more important than any kind of disease. Please reach out if you need help!


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