Before I began this journey into the blogging world, I was set on writing about motherhood (the happy part), but while creating my blog, I was thinking about all the hard times and how no one ever wants to share that. People only want to share what they want you to see, the “perfect life”. As, moms, we all try our best to be the best, but never stop to think, maybe that mom is really struggling and needs someone to talk to.
That is why I decided I would talk about this particular subject for my first blog post.
To begin, I will tell you a little about my story…
When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I was so excited, I could not wait to be a mom! It wasn’t even a month after she was born that I had gone through some terrible dark times, from betrayal to losing friends and trust. On top of everything, I was feeling some of the symptoms of PPD (postpartum depression), which I never told my doctor because I kept on telling myself it was all the stress I was going through, being a new mom and all. I thought I could get through it on my own.
This is me smiling.
This is also me having one of my hardest days only 2 months postpartum.
Looks can be deceiving. I am one of those types that don’t like to show emotion in public and especially talk to someone about how lonely I am feeling.
Consult with your doctor right away if you are feeling any of these symptoms:
- Mood swings
- Lack energy
- Insomnia, excessive crying, anger
- Lost of appetite, weight loss/weight gain
- Feeling frustrated, guilt, inadequacy
- Worry, scary thoughts
- Feeling like you are getting worse not better
Ways to fight through this disease:
Join social media groups
Get into social media and use it as a way to connect and talk to other moms who may be going through the same thing as you. Its a great way to meet new friends and get together for playdates. Adult conversations are one thing we miss out on a lot.
Talk to a therapist
This may not be the at the top of your list, but I wish I would have done this. Not just for my health but I really needed to vent and not feel bad about it. They are licensed and are there to help you.
Hang out with family
This is my favorite because I love going to my moms house and being with family. It distracts me and we all have a few good laughs and everyone wants to play with the kids which gives me a nice break.
Make time for yourself
I believe this is the number one thing you can do for yourself, it’s also the hardest. Even if it is during nap time or your hubby can spend an hour with baby while you take a nice relaxing bath. Whatever it is you want to do, try to make the time so you can take care of yourself. Tell your husband, or mother or friend that its for your health and safety and all you need a little time. That is what you have to do!
*Note: Motherhood can be hard, heck life can be hard, but you don’t have to feel this way! Don’t be afraid to talk to you doctor because being there for your kids is far more important than any kind of disease. Please reach out if you need help!
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